This morning I had been walking with a new friend. During our walk I had laid on him some pretty heavy stuff. He seemed to handle it OK. At at the end of our walk we parted pleasantly, but we d idn't make any plans for walking tomorrow. Tonight I walked to talk to my friend about walking tomorrow so I pulled over to the side of the road. At first I felt grumpy and felt like he wouldn't want to walk any more and I was about to call and, kind of disapointedly ask him if he wanted to walk tomorrow, with a sense that he wouldn't want to walk any more. The strange thing is that I recognized my addtitude as an incorrect thought and would be doomed to failure. The message came to me that my attitude would greatly affect the outcome. So I took time to sit a bit and correct my attitude. I spent a few seconds just focusing and readjusting my attitude. I then called my friend and cheerfully called him and asked how he was doing. After some friendly interaction I told him that we hadn't talked about walking tomorrow morning. I asked him about if he wanted to walk in the morning. He replied that he was busy in the morning. I kept quiet and just waited. After a few seconds of silence he went on to say the could could on the following morning.
This was a very clear message to me that we can affect the outcome by how we handle each situation.