This morning I had been walking with a new friend. During our walk I had laid on him some pretty heavy stuff. He seemed to handle it OK. At at the end of our walk we parted pleasantly, but we didn't make any plans for walking tomorrow. Tonight I wanted to talk to my friend about walking tomorrow so I pulled over to the side of the road. At first I felt grumpy and felt like he wouldn't want to walk any more and I was about to call and, kind of disapointedly ask him if he wanted to walk tomorrow, with a sense that he wouldn't want to walk any more. The strange thing is that I recognized my addtitude as an incorrect thought and would be doomed to failure. The message came to me that my attitude would greatly affect the outcome. So I took time to sit a bit and correct my attitude. I spent a few seconds just focusing and readjusting my attitude. I then called my friend and cheerfully asked how he was doing. After some friendly interaction I told him that we hadn't talked about walking tomorrow morning. I asked him about if he wanted to walk in the morning. He replied that he was busy in the morning. I kept quiet and just waited. After a few seconds of silence he went on to say that he could on the following morning.
This was a very clear message to me that we can affect the outcome by how we handle each situation.