I recently heard someone who is close to me say, "God is selfish. It's all about him." In a very real sense this is true. For example, if we met a human whose main thought was having everything to be about him, and if he sought glory for himself, we'd call that a very selfish man. However, we attribute those same motives to God. We say, "It's all about God!" I repeatedly hear Christians talk about God seeking his own glory. If we were to attribute those exact same set of attributes that we attribute to God to a human, we'd say that human is very egotistical. He is very self-centered.
How would I differentiate (or would I) human selfishness versus God self-centeredness. For the sake of clarity, I'm going to call God's focus as "God(self-)centeredness". Let's take a look at this. Everything in this earth already belongs to God. Even we humans are the property of God. He made us for his own reasons. His self-centeredness plays out like this. He desires the best for all of his creation. What is best for his creation is also best for God AND what is best for God is best for his creation.
To fuller illustrate this, let's look at the relationship of a husband and a wife. What is the most selfish thing that a husband can be and do? In a worldly sense, he would go have countless affairs, have sex with many different women. He would go from one to another without end. But does this bring him happiness? To the man blinded by his passions, he thinks of "getting some" for each female as his goal. In reality, he's not happy, he has no one in his life who really cares about his. No woman would truly care about a man who just uses her body for his own satisfaction. In contrast to this, a godly man, who is a true man, cares deeply for his wife. He does whatever he can to please her and satisfy her. He has an eye for her alone. She is his treasure and his pleasure. He submits to her, as she does to him. She cares deeply for him and gives herself fully and freely to him. She eagerly says with her actions, "Here I am, come take me and have your way with me." She fully trusts him and has full confidence that he will only do what is best for her and that which pleases her. She holds nothing back from him.
In much the same way, when we have lived life for some time we begin to realize that God wants what is best for us, that he shows his love and care for us on a daily basis, we begin to trust him more with each passing day. As time goes by, we begin to open ourselves more and more to him. We finally say to him, "Here I am, do as you please with me. I am yours to do with as you will." In a very real sense, what is best for us is best for God. God is most pleased with us when we give ourselves fully to him.
What is best for God is what is best for us. He created us in his image. Yes, God is self-centered, but Godly self-centeredness brings about what is best for us, because we belong to him and are part of his body. "for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church," Ephesians 5:29
In a very similar sense, a truly wise husband will be fully self-centered, meaning: He knows that whatever he plants he will get back. To get the best back he must plant the best. To get a wife who truly loves him and one who will truly give herself fully to him, he must treat her well, take care of her needs, love her fully. So he will do whatever he can to please and satisfy her because it will come back to him many times over.
In conclusion, when God loves himself, he loves us. We are his body, we are part of him. So, God being (god)self-centered is best for him and it is also best for us.
Here is a similar article that I found on another website after I wrote this article: Is God Self-Centered?