Christians often pray that God may save this person or that person, or that God will cause something to happen. And yet at the same time Christians say that God condemns people who don't "accept Christ, etc.". There is a paradox here. Is it God that changes our hearts, or are we responsible to change our hearts? If God is the one who changes our hearts, then why do Christians say that God condemns those who "don't change". On the Other hand, if we are responsible to change, then why do Christians pray that God will change our hearts? Which way is it?