Spending time with Jesus
A Relationship with Jesus
Well, we are told that the (the people in) the church are the body of Christ. We are also told that we can't love God if we don't love people (1 john) When we want a relationship with... the Lord, we do it by developing a relationship with the people in the body.

Victor Frankl, his relationshiop with his wife.

I presume that you can convince yourself of anything, if you tell yourself over and over again.