One of the most destructive communications from a husband to a wife that I know of is, "God wants me to do this." This is really saying, "You can't question my doing this because 'God' told me to do this12". This shuts a wife out of the decision process, and really tells her to shut up. Wives are not stupid. They know what is happening. They are not fooled by a pretense of spirituality.
I would say this to you husbands, if you believe that God wants you to do something, then God would also have convinced your wife that you are supposed to do that. If your wife disagrees, then I say that you need to reassess your position that God told you to do something
No further discussion is wanted of needed! God is used as a trump card (I win the decision!).
One reason why many people may not "call the bluff" and ask for the "proof" is that many people are afraid off seeming to be "unspiritual".