As I look around me and look on the Internet I see many labels by which people call themselves. "I am a Christian." "I am a ex-Christian", ,"I am a non-Christian", "I am a Baptist.", "I am a Budhist." and so on.
As I look at all this, I ask myself, "What am I?"
I don't really like to go by a label because there is a lot of baggage (i.e. a perceived set of beliefs) that goes with any label. There is also a lot of baggage that goes with an "ex" label. For example, if someone calls himself an "ex-Christian" he is automatically put in an "unbeliever" (or "backslider") pigeon-hole. In addition, Being an "ex" anything does not give you anything to aim at, it gives you no direction of travel or growth. Be and "ex" is often remaining too long in the anger mode, of feeling hurt.
I see life as a journey. When we were immature we took on a label to gain some significance. "I am somebody! I am a XXX (whatever X might be). As we mature we find that labels are so limiting, so inadequate to express where we are on our journey. Many of us cast off the old constraining labels because we find that they no long accurately describe who we are or what we stand for.. As soon as you call call yourself anything, people will load you up with a (baggage) of .... that they associate with that label (with that impresssion of us. Now, to be open, I would say that my wife may still consider herself a Christian, and so in that way that label may still be partially accurate.
But, as I think about it, I would ask myself, what would I label myself as? I don't like to call myself an "ex-Christian", or an ex-anything. I am a something, not an ex-something. The label "ex-" does nothing to give any helpful definition.