You CAN love your wife deeply, even during the times that you don't "feel" love. True Love is not a feeling. True Love is a verb. Love involves the things that you think, say, and do. It has properly been said, "Proper emotions follow proper actions."
Many of our problems in this life happen because events and ... happen according what we told ... to do. The problem is often that we don't know what we told .. to do.
This life is set up to operate by specific guidelines and proceedures (often called laws). When we violate those laws, then we cause problems both to ourselves and to others.For example, some of the principles of life are:
How can I know that I'm saved? How can I know that I will not go to hell? How can I know that my sins will be forgiven? Will God send me the hell? And
These were all fear based questions. These are all assume an angry god who is out to get sinners.