One of the most destructive communications from a husband to a wife that I know of is, "God wants me to do this." This is really saying, "You can't question my doing this because 'God' told me to do this1
Ask not how you can serve God. Rather, learn how to live life, how to serve mankind, how to work in such a way as to bless those around you.
"Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen." 1 John 4:20
Spending time with Jesus
A Relationship with Jesus
Well, we are told that the (the people in) the church are the body of Christ. We are also told that we can't love God if we don't love people (1 john) When we want a relationship with... the Lord, we do it by developing a relationship with the people in the body.
Victor Frankl, his relationshiop with his wife.
I presume that you can convince yourself of anything, if you tell yourself over and over again.
How often have you heard someone say (or have you said it yourself)? "Well, umm, I know that I should be reading my Bible every day. I really want to, really I do! Really, I mean it." There is the guilt plainly laid out. However, feeling guilty about not reading the Bible doesn't make that person actually read the Bible.